February 4th, 2010 
Maria Helm 
Shameless procrastination. Reluctantly saying yes. Complaining relentlessly. Feeling like a martyr. You go through all that, when a two-letter word could have set you free from obligation: “No.” Darn it, I can’t. Sorry, no. Love to, but no, can’t do it this time. That’s what your inner bobblehead was screaming as your mouth said, “Yes, I’d love to host this year’s Superbowl party.”
Thinking you are a bad person for saying no is a symptom of “the disease to please.” Do the right thing – for yourself and others – by opting out. Don’t feel guilty.
Saying No, Step-by-Step
- Dodge first, then digest. Never answer in the moment. Try “Let me get back to you.” This gives you time to weigh your options and compose yourself before answering.
I think it’s safe to say that we all strive to live a better life. We try to manage our personal and professional life and somehow do our best to create some balance. We love to take care of our loved ones, our customers, our bosses. But one thing that we certainly neglect from time to time is to take care of ourselves. Health, after all, is something that we cannot take for granted. Well, not for long. Without our health, we definitely, lose the ability to take care of all those things that we think are all so important. Remember that health is wealth.
We have always asked ourselves “how can I get things done faster so I can accomplish more of my goals?” Sure. We all like that to happen. But really, the real question to ask is “how can I get more things done in a short period of time?”
We all have to sell, whether we realize it or not. For those of us who own our business, we have products and/or services to sell. Some make their living selling goods and services offered by their employers. Even if you’re not a salesperson by profession, you still have to sell. Anytime you need to convince someone to agree with you or get buy-in to your latest scheme, you are selling. You have to sell if you want that plum project. How about if you want to manage that high-profile account, or if you want your boss’ approval on your latest plan? Well you have to sell and get the order. To be a salesperson who sells, consider these :
Saying nice things to people makes them feel good. People who feel good about themselves and their jobs are happy and productive. If they work for you, with you, or near you, they will propel you in front of them. Be absolutely genuine; practice and remember to say:
