February 4th, 2010 
Maria Helm 
Shameless procrastination. Reluctantly saying yes. Complaining relentlessly. Feeling like a martyr. You go through all that, when a two-letter word could have set you free from obligation: “No.” Darn it, I can’t. Sorry, no. Love to, but no, can’t do it this time. That’s what your inner bobblehead was screaming as your mouth said, “Yes, I’d love to host this year’s Superbowl party.”
Thinking you are a bad person for saying no is a symptom of “the disease to please.” Do the right thing – for yourself and others – by opting out. Don’t feel guilty.
Saying No, Step-by-Step
- Dodge first, then digest. Never answer in the moment. Try “Let me get back to you.” This gives you time to weigh your options and compose yourself before answering.
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